Girls' Self Defense- Kung fu(Wing Chun)

about club

A club is an association of two or more people united by a common interest or goal. club is a place for people that want dance and have drink together. It's easy to get drunk in a club. When people drunk they do things different, girl may be get home by man, or other things can happen.
When a girl going to club they are somthing they should care about.
1, what happen if you are drunk

normaly when you drunk, you should stop drinking, drink some water, or tell you finish to take your home. you closer firend or boyfriend.

2, wat heppen is some guy want shout you a drink.

if you are not drunk and you kind like that guy, you can have it, or other wise just say no.

3. what kind of alcohol are not easy to get drunk

the alcohol mix with greentea or spirt. this is harder to get drunk

Sexual harassments may happen anywhere! (3)

If you get raped by a relative or family member, go to a safe place first. If you want to report the crime, notify the police immediately. Reporting the crime can help you regain a sense of personal power and control.Call a friend, or someone else you trust who can be with you and give you support.
Preserve all physical evidence of the assault. Do not shower, bathe, douche, eat, drink, wash your hands, or brush your teeth until after you have had a medical examination. Save all of the clothing you were wearing at the time of the assault. Place each item of clothing in a separate paper bag. Do not use plastic bags. Do not clean or disturb anything in the area where the assault occurred.
Get medical care as soon as possible. Go to a hospital emergency department or a specialized forensic clinic that provides treatment for sexual assault victims. Even if you think that you do not have any physical injuries, you should still have a medical examinationand discuss with a health care provider the risk of exposure to sexually transmitted infections and the possibility of pregnancy resulting from the sexual assault. Having a medical exam is also a way for you to preserve physical evidence of a sexual assault.
Write down as much as you can remember about the circumstances of the assault, including a description of the assailant.
Get information whenever you have questions or concerns. After a sexual assault, you have a lot of choices and decisions to make - e.g., about getting medical care, making a police report, and telling other people. You may have concerns about the impact of the assault and the reactions of friends and family members. You can get information by calling a rape crisis center, a hotline, or other victim assistance agencies.
Talk with a counselor who is trained to assist rape victims. Counseling can help you learn how to cope with the emotional and physical impacts of the assault. You can find a counselor by contacting a local rape crisis center, a hotline, a counseling service, other victim assistance agencies,etc.

Below are some links that could help you out!
The first video is a clip I found in youtube which tells you what to do to sue the person who raped you.

Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_should_you_do_if_you_were_raped#ixzz1Kto9Kt3U

And these are some links that you could consult when you need further consulatation.

National Sexual Assault Online Hotline [by Rainn]
http://www.rainn.org/index.php

National Hotlines and resources for sexual harassment [by Feminist Majority Foundation]
http://feminist.org/911/harass.html

Sexual harassment prevention program  [by UCDavis Health System]
http://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/hr/hrdepts/harassment_mediation/sexual_harass_prgrm/

-Mabel Ngan

Do not walk along at night, girls please protect yourself.

According these two examples, girls cannot walk along at midnight, Anna and Jennifer was get hurt, Anna just lose some money, but Jennifer lose her life. Girls should know how to protect themselves, walk along at midnight is too dangerous, girls do not have so much power to against robber, especially walk along. Girls can go to party, but please let your friend take you to home; otherwise, some dangerous thing will happened, some guys want to look for a girl who is walk by herself, some guys only robbed money, some guys will hurt the girl, another guys even want to raped the girls, so, girls do not walk along at night, learn how to protect yourself.

-Jiamei

A girl was died when she walk along at night.

Another girl is not so lucky as Anna, her name is Jennifer, when she finish her party, she went home by herself, her friend want to drive her to home, but she think no need, because she also came home at midnight. So, a dangerous thing happened, a guy came to robbed her bag, but Jennifer do not let him to do so, actually the guy also afraid, then, the guy hurt Jennifer stolen her bag, because it was midnight, nobody know Jennifer is hurtled and she also unconscious. At next day, when someone fined her, she has already died because she lose so much blood.

-Jiamei

Dangerous! A girl walk along at midnight

As many entertainment increases, more and more people like play at night, especially some girls. Girls walk alone at night is quite dangerous, but some of them can not realize how dangerous it is, so, this will cause many problems on girls. For example, a girl named Anna was walked at night about 1:00 am by herself when she finished her party. Then a man suddenly jumped out from a bosky boscage. He want to prick Anna’s eyes, then Anna protect her eyes, the man rapid rob Anna’s all bonds, mobiles, rings and run away. Luckily, Anna did not get hurt. Then police get this criminal, he said when they rob the bonds, they all prefer want to find the weakness people, for example, old people, girls, but general speaking, the old people will not go out at night, but many girls usually go home at midnight by themselves, so, they can rob them very easy.

-Jiamei

How to get rid of the bad guys follow girls

As a girl, when you walks on the way home and find out a person is always following behind you with your no intention of looking back. And when you pay attention to him, he does not naturally escape; you go he goes, you stop he stops, which indicates that you are being tracked by the bad guys. To face this situation, what should you do?

1.      Be calm, do not panic

2.      The rapid observation of the environment, clear the road conditions, where the smooth, where the barrier, where many people, where is the unit

3.      Immediately shake the bad buy off. The method is run away to nearest unit or the place where many people have. If it is night, running to where with bright lights. If there are residents near to you, run there for help.

4.      Positive phase, as sharply asked:” What are you doing?” scared him away with your own righteousness; if he do not escape, you can shout, attracting pedestrians. If he do not run , then you need to react immediately as you run.

Sexual harassments may happen anywhere! (2)

Prevention is always better than cure!

So, in this post, I am going to talk about how to prevent sexual harassments at home.

Firstly,If you realize any sexual harassment when it is not too agressive, try to put an end to it. unless their words too sexually aggressive, or threatening. Girls, you have direct and make things clear. Make the person understand that you do not appreciate it if they're being offensive. Most the time they'll apologize and the situation will end there.


If the situation continue to escalate, don't start being offensive because it may make things worse. That sensitivity can lead to a much more aggressive attack. Stop it in a calm demeanor and look mature. Do not get mad and lose control. It is because people respect you when you respect others at the same time. Don't let your emotions dictate the situation, otherwise it could result into worse behavior or possible actions.


On the other hand, taking sexual harassment training courses. Girl can never assume this will not be a problem in their life. Just about every girl has probably been harassed to some degree before. Some actions just might be innocent, without indication of it becoming dangerous. However, it's good to understand how to handle these situations incase they go for the worse.


For cases in which involves family members, girls may not dare to tell their friends or other family members. They may find social workers or hotlines to seek help and talk about ways to solve the problem.

-Mabel Ngan

Sexual harassments may happen anywhere! (1)

Nowadays, living in this metropolises in which people are facing stress from work in everyday life, for instance complaints from clients, requirements from bosses or employers, financial insecurity, etc, pushes people's attitude to an extreme edge that they would find ways and do anything to pursue success., However, during the process, moral values of modern people get distorted and a person's demeanor and behaviors become less important than how successful and great a person can be.Our common senses tell us that we cannot cheat in our examinations, cannot copy others assignments, cannot steal things in malls without paying, however, stress may lead to the psychological disorder and people becomes psychic and do things without knowing if it is right or wrong. Moreover, the consequences of what they did are ignored and put aside. Capitalist societies especially nurture people who aims and targets to pursue every single goal for their own sake.


The imbalance in stress bought from work can lead to the man in the family to do something in extreme to balance his distorted mind. Although there are sometimes news reporting about men sexually harassing their children, however I believe that those cases that come to the light might only be one in a million among all cases. Many children do not know how to handle these situations , daughters do not dare to tell their mothers and of course impossible to talk to their fathers about that. Some may aware that the breaking of those news would bring down the reputation of her dad or the family. What if her dad's boss fire him because of it? What will their relatives think about their family if they know? And most important of all, what if nobody believes in her? If she need to find prove, she may have to undergo medical checks and the next step will lead to taking action to sue her own father. Many girls do not have the guts to stand out and speak for themselves. They do not know how to face their fathers which is their closest relative. Some cases, victims may be harassed by their brothers, uncles, cousins or even grandparents. These are also embarrassing cases that no even the juvenile, but mature people do not know how to handle.


In my point of view, a few news reporting about these issues does not mean the problem in our society is not serious now. The government and social institutions should take more measures to avoid those tragedies from happening and teaching them ways to avoid it. Dear girls, in the next two articles, I will tell you more about how to prevent and what to do when you face sexual harassments from your family members.

It takes only a minute to change a life...we definitely need to know how to protect ourselves!!

-Mabel Ngan

Sexual Assault

Nowadays, there are more and more girls meet with sexual assault, thus, girls need to know how to protect themselves from sexual assault.

1.       Make sure your relatives know your whereabouts.

2.     If you found the person who conduct disorderly ,you must run away without hesitate.

3.     Do not use life alone with stranger.

4.     Say ‘NO’ to the convict with firmness.

5.     Refuse stranger into your house.

6.    When anything crops up, you should remain calm and take chance to ask others help or call the police.

7.     Take an act in self-defense, use keys, shoes, even grasses as the counterattack weapons.

8.     Take time such as talk to the convict in order to memorize more features and wait for rescuer.

Education from Parents

Who has the responsibility to educate girls about how to protect themselves? The answer would be  the school, institution, youth serving agency, after-school program and most importantly their parents. there are some tip for help and educate their kids:

1.      Know your kids' friends

2.      Make a habit of asking, "What happened today?"

3.      Allow them to use you as the excuse.

4.      Come up with a word or code.

5.      Discuss the hard issues.

6.      Encourage your school, or after-school group, to integrate the Staying Safe books

7.      Identify "safe havens" for children and youth.

How to prevent strangers hurt me

It is a huge percentage of harm girls suffered by strangers. In nowadays, girls knew more importance of protecting themselves than ever before. But there is still a lot of girls neglect defense of a stranger.

1.       Do not easily believe stranger and meet net friend

2.       Do not accept drink or food by strangers

3.       Ignore stranger’s accost, do not afraid in danger but shout to ask for help and find the nearest alarm

4.       Be careful of these characteristic of strangers:

Ø  Fake identity – palm off an imitation as a police, a department worker, a sales personnel or other identity to relax your vigilance

Ø  Fabricated reasons – Sometimes bad people falsely claimed he was having problems, need your help and use your compassion to make you relax vigilance

Ø  Lure – sometimes bad people use your vanity, love of money, to send you gifts, money and goods, with small grace so that you gradually go into his trap

In these cases, girls should ask more why in their minds and think about what teachers and parents have taught to keep their minds clearly to against harm they might suffer.

Public Place Issue

We all live and work in the society, we can not avoid much public activity, therefore, especially girls, we should know how to protect ourselves in public place. There is a process below that describes how to protect ourselves when there is an accident happened such as Trample accident, it usually happened in school or business building and so on.

Picture1 shows that how to protect when you stands in the crowd. Firstly, use life hand to make a fist and right hand hold your life hand. secondly, stoop down, make sure you take shape as a triangle to protect yourself strongly.

Picture 2 and 3 describes that how to protect yourself when you already fall on the floor. Firstly, you should be buckled fingers crossed to protect your head and neck, and two cubits forward to protect your temple. Then knees move forward in order to protect your chest, enterocoelia and visceral organ.Lastly, lay on the floor.

In club

In now day’s young girls loves to go to clubbing. That's a place people can have fun and also relax. So how can girls protect themselves in club?

1.    Don't go club by yourself; find some friends to come with you.

2.    Get one or two you trust friend to take you home if you got drunk.

3.    Don't bring too valuable stuff with you.

4.    No matter how hot is the guy doesn’t have relation when you first meet him.

5.    Go give numbers to random, but you can give msn or facebook instead.

6.    Know how much you can drink, don't let yourself get drunk.

7.    Wear something that not shows your body out.

8.    Too get drunk easy.

9.    Don't really trust guys in club.

10.  Get a taxi or let you boyfriend drive you home, it will be more safe.

Five Major Conditions

Girls may be affected by a variety injuries that almost are included in the five major conditions that we summarized as follows:

• Stranger-  showing personal information and talking to strangers is very dangerous as you do not know who is the person and whether he is reliable/believable or not.
• Public transport-  people might get closer to other people, that could be easier for them to hurt you.
• Night road- walking on a night road alone is quite easily to be attacked and hard to ask help as few people around you.
• Public entertainment - it is always a chaotic place that might all kinds of people are in there.
• Stepfather's sexual abuse- one of the most concern problem, that hurt girls not only on physically but also on mentally.

According to these five major conditions, girls should understand such areas from which they need to be careful and take defensive measures against possible events.

Four Approaches

In this society, damage is everywhere and the harm girls suffered is one of the most concern in the world.
There are four approaches that summarize various methods to help girls stay safe. First approach concerns about improving awareness of defense which help girls realize that they are in vulnerable groups as they might be hurt over fifty percent. The second approach refers to basic legal knowledge to protect themselves as a tool. Thirdly, appropriate demeanor and dress also significant as some bad guys probably argue that you tempts them with an unappropriate dress. Thus, that should be careful. The last approach that need to be mentioned concerns to learn at least one self defense for girls as it is a quite useful tool to protect themselves directly.
As the four approaches above. They can help girls in a largely protected against the harm they might suffered. 

Tips for self defensing

Here are some self defense tips to reduce the likelihood of date rape. Remember, the ability to reduce sexual assault does not mean you brought on the assault.
1. When you date someone for the first time, meet during the day in a public place like a restaurant, a movie, or wherever there is a crowd. Do group activities like double dating or playing miniature golf. If the two of you are alone, have lunch, not dinner. That way, you’ll build in a time limit.
2. Have your own transportation. Don’t depend on your date to get you home. It’s all too common for a woman to be driven to a secluded location and then assaulted. Also carry enough money for your own meals, tickets, and so on. Don’t ever depend on anyone financially. Many men still believe that any woman they spend money on owes them sexual favors.
3. Don’t use drugs or alcohol. If you do drink, know your limits. When you drink, the first thing you lose is your judgment.


4. If you’re at a party, never accept a ride from someone you’ve just met. Call a cab instead.


5. Watch out for men who become violent or won’t take no for an answer, even in nonsexual situations.


6. It’s a good idea to be clear with your date right from the start regarding your feelings about sex. Saying no is a lot easier at dinner than at your doorstep. Establish your expectations at the outset, what you will and won’t allow, when you are uncomfortable, and that “no” means NO. If you feel uncomfortable with your date’s responses or behaviors, clearly communicate those feelings.


7. Don’t take communication for granted.


8. If you invite your date in for a nightcap or coffee and he becomes aggressive, don’t hesitate to go to a friend’s or neighbor’s home to call the police.
9. Don’t automatically trust everyone. Have a written set of guidelines for dealing with unwelcome sexual behavior that you can teach your children.




10. Evaluate your own self-esteem. If it’s low, you might be attracting the wrong kinds of people. Low self-esteem leads many women to accept unacceptable behavior from a man. Some of the warning signs, which should NOT be ignored, include mood swings, fits of anger, inability to handle frustration, sexist jokes and behavior, overly controlling behavior, and lack of consideration for the feelings of you or others. Does your date insult you or demean you in front of friends? Does he pressure you for sex? Abuse alcohol or drugs? If you are attracting or tolerating these kinds of people, seek counseling.

Emily

self defense

Penny

how can girls protect themselves

From man’s point of view girls should do the following things to be protecting themselves

1.       Don't randomly believe other people, even they are your friends.

2.       Watch more news to learn from how things happen on other person.

3.       Don't go home at mid night.

4.       Don't drink random drinks.

5.       Say no to people that you don't want to go out with.

6.       Go party other than date with one guy.

7.       Let your boyfriend protect you.

8.       Don't talk to strangers.

9.       Let your family know where you going to.

10.   If you not sure about something tell you friends, they can help you with it.

Vae